Trauma Bonding

What Is Trauma Bonding?

A trauma bond is a strong emotional attachment that forms between a person and someone who mistreats or abuses them. This bond is often driven by fear, dependency, and confusion.

The cycle of abuse is frequently followed by moments of positive reinforcement—small gestures of love or kindness—that leave the abused person feeling conflicted. Over time, this cycle repeats, deepening the emotional connection in a profoundly unhealthy way.

Why Is It So Hard to Leave?

The Power of Repetition

The repeated emotional highs and lows cause the bond to strengthen.Each time the cycle continues, the person becomes more entangled, making it harder to leave.

Emotional Defense Mechanisms

Victims may:

• Defend their abuser

• Downplay the abuse

• Hope things will improve or be “not as bad next time”

This internal struggle often leads them to stay, even when it’s deeply painful both physically and emotionally.

When You See Someone You Love in a Trauma Bond

Wanting to Help

We’ve all known someone who is trauma bonded—you can often spot it from a mile away. Your first instinct might be to rescue them, but be mindful.If they are not ready, you could unintentionally push them further into isolation.

Be Intuitive and Safe

Especially in cases of physical abuse, approach the situation carefully. The last thing you want is for them to suffer more harm if your involvement backfires.

How to Truly Support Them

Recommend Professional Help First

If they reach out to you:

• Always suggest a trained professional first

• Therapists or counselors know the steps and tools needed for real healing

  
  

Be Cautious With Personal Involvement

Jumping in too quickly can lead to heartbreak on both ends.

• You try to help

• They return to the abuser

• You lose the friendship

  It's a painful cycle, especially when you believe they're ready—but they’re not.

  
  

A Spiritual Approach to Support

If you sense someone is in a trauma-bonded relationship and they’re not ready to leave:

• Pray for them

• Call on Archangel Michael and his legions of light to protect them

• Release them to Spirit and their guides

• Ask that they be shown the truth of their relationship in divine timing

  
  

Let Go With Love

You may not know what lessons their soul is choosing to learn. Releasing them with love is often the most powerful thing you can do.

Trust that Spirit is working, even if you can’t see it.