Self-Love Is Not Soft. It’s Honest.

Self-love has been promoted as selfishness, affirmations, and positive thinking but real self love is far more confronting. It asks you to stop abandoning yourself to be accepted, to stop explaining what your soul already knows.

Self love begins the moment you choose truth over approval.

Loving yourself doesn’t mean you always feel good about your choices. It means noticing where you override your needs, silence your intuition, or stay loyal to old patterns. Self love isn’t self soothing, it’s self respect.

True self love doesn’t ask how can I be more likable? It asks, how can I be more aligned? When you choose yourself not from ego, but from integrity, you stop negotiating your worth. And that quiet decision can change everything.

When are we going to realize that we must come first. Once we’re in a place where our needs are taken care of first, everything else heals from there. We then have the energy, patience and time to look at who needs our attention next.

Although we have been taught all wrong about martyring ourselves for everyone and everything else, that is old thinking that no longer works. Remind yourself daily that your needs have to be in place first, then move outward from there. It works!